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your boy-friend does not pay attention. Or, your girl-friend is
always busy? Learn here to use
these Relationship Techniques to heal a broken relationship. Make
a marriage alive and great again.
you serious about getting your boy-friend and girl-friend back,
back into your life with real love and sharing? If you are
discuss together and use the Relationship Techniques described
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“How can we Fall in Love again?”
here about 5 Relationship Techniques and Ideas. Deepen your love.
Improve your Marriage and to Fall in Love again.
can you Fall in Love Again?
can get your boy-friend, girl-friend or husband, wife
back. You can even Fall in Love again. Relationship
techniques can help. Read here about 5 Techniques I/ we used to
Improve Understanding in part by listening better and by
deepening the sharing of day-to-day life.
married the first time to C for 17 years. The second time, I was
married to A for 14 years. We learned a few things that helped.
each Marriage, we were able to Fall in Love again more than
excited again. Your husband should feel like a boy-friend who
fact, even today, we love each other with Filial Love, like a
brother and sister might love. The In Love Feeling is a
combination of Eros and Filial Love. With
A, we called a Cocoon. A was “my Lady” and felt safe
Love feeling lasted about 3 to 6 months each time. Then,
day-to-day life cooled the In Love feeling and the Eros. To keep
the In Love feeling going, with A, we stopped often on each long
drive. Why? We stopped just to Hug, to make the Cocoon
stronger before we continued on.
are Five Methods that improved our Marriage Relationship, that
even helped us Fall in Love again. These
relationship techniques can help deepen your sharing of
day-to-day life, to Increase your Love and Bond.
need to be Heard in a healthy relationship. It is normal for the
Woman, the girl-friend, to seek current understanding. The man,
the boy-friend, focuses on Action. Help your girl-friend to Be
and Feel Heard. Learn how to Listen Actively at our
Relationship Technique - Interviewing
each other, perhaps for 10 or 20 minutes once per month. Listen
about Goals for Next month and how he, she did last month. To
understand is the task of the Interviewer. It helps to use
Categories like Personal Health, The Children, Our Relationship,
Work, Family Calendar.
C, we enjoyed interviewing each other. It worked well. She is a
great Organizer, even for large events. With A, she would not do
this; so, we did so informally only.
Relationship Technique – Spooning
down behind your boy-friend or girl-friend. Form your body around
her. Both of you should take turns to spoon each other most every
night. It can help to form a feeling like a Cocoon. The receiver
of the Spoon feels Protected and Loved. The one Spooning feels –
if he is awake – Cherishing her, feeling grateful she is
here with you.
Spooning Affects are better if you align breathing, but it is not
Relationship Technique – Gazing
for Couples – Active Alignment
is a challenge. Stop gazing at any time if uncomfortable.
you start, you both get calm first by deep, even breathing.
facing each other close enough to hold hands, in chairs or on the
Hold right hand to right hand.
Then, look calmly into the eyes of the other with slow even
one, normally Him, also follow Her breathing to align breathing.
for 1 minute only the first time. Then talk about it.
person to look into your eyes for a period is a privilege you
grant. It is unusual. “Staring” it is called when it
Keep your thoughts always coming back to the beautiful face you
now see. You are grateful for your girl-friend.
not Talk while Gazing. Be Quiet. Behold the other.
Deepen your breaths. Perhaps you start with a breath every 3
seconds and stretch over time to 10 seconds per cycle of breath
in and out.
Breath In should be faster than the breath out. In might take 1
or 2 seconds; hold for 5 and release the breath for 3 seconds or
can trigger many feelings. Remember to Stop at any time.
Relationship Technique – Share Work at Home
means to share cooking, cleaning and what needs doing. Cooking
together can be fun, a cause of interaction. Shared experiences
are a big part of a healthy relationship. Reading out loud can be
nice, particularly at the end of the day. Think of the shared
experiences you liked when you were In Love. Did you Take Walks,
go for a Swim, throw a Ball?
me, while married to C, I did the sharing but not my fair share
of work alone. I changed how I responded to Doing
Lazy, a Shirker. I learned Why. How did I change? What Motivates
me and how am I affected?
read Abraham Maslow's list of subtle Being Value Motivations at
the Self-Actualization level there are 18 different possible
Motivations. Please see my
Abraham Maslow Motivation Article, “Finding Enthusiasm in
was I Lazy? Effortless Motivates me a lot. Seeing that being Lazy
was Not Just, one day I walked into the kitchen. The dishes
needed to be washed; cleaning the dishes from or 6 wonderful
children seemed never ending. I started to walk away to pretend I
did not know. I saw the dishes and thought, "Be a Doer not a
Shirker, Bruce." "Why not? Be a Pitch-In person."
I did. Right then and there I changed. I have helped with chores
even without being asked, ever since then.